Tuesday, March 17, 2009

We've moved!!!!

Goto http://www.musiccitysingles.net/

Sunday, March 15, 2009

My Review Of VH1's "Tough Love"

If you're a single female, you might have read the book "He's Just Not That Into You" and/or you might have seen the hit movie of the same name. With that, VH-1 just premiered a new show from the producers of the film called "Tough Love".

Hosted by professional matchmaker, Steve Ward, he takes a group of women in for an 8 week boot camp of finding true love. And these women have various personalities that is causing them to have trouble finding dates. You have "Miss. Partygirl", "Miss. Lone Ranger", "Miss. Picky", "Miss Guided", and even a "Miss. Bridezilla" as well as a "Miss. Gold Digger" to name just a few. During this show Steve will take these women through a series of exercises and tests to help them realize what mistakes they're making and give them "Brutal Honest" advice on finding the right guy and true love. On the first episode, Steve was giving them tips on giving an "First Impression" and these ladies had a first taste of what men thought of them behind their backs. Yes, it's total brutal honesty.

Even though I have read the book and watched the first episode, as a single female, I just want to raise my hands in the air and shout "AMEN!". Why? I've done everything to have dates from online websites to speed dating and it always stops after one date. I always tell my friends that I get one date and get dumped afterwards. And I've been reading books, articles and even listen to my friends advice on meeting a guy and dateing but none has worked out at all for me.

I really like Steve Ward's advice on telling the girls what they are doing wrong when they talk to a guy. He doesn't sugarcoat it....just tells it like it is. And maybe it's me but I don't want a professional's advice on what I'm doing wrong in dating with "Fancy Words"...just tell it straight out in front of my face. If I'm giving an impression that I look so serious, just tell me how to smile without looking goofy. If I'm wearing the wrong clothes and attracting the wrong guys because of it...tell me what I should wear so I will attract the right ones.

In my opinion, if you're having trouble in dating scene (like me) and your mind is spinning from reading so many types of dating advice from every expert on earth, watch the show. I'm already looking forward to hear more of Steve Ward's advice on dating. And more of his tests that he's giving to the girls, for instance he's going to make them wear a zapper on their next date....if they say something wrong, or made a wrong move.....here comes the shock! ;)

Where are we going with this? BETA

After the last check of the "mail bag" I came upon a letter from a young attractive single male in Music City. Most of his comments were constructive criticism and opened our eyes to a lot of ideas. Some of it criticizing the mix of writing styles and the unattractive "cluttered" design of the website.

If you're familiar at all with Blogger, you are aware of its limitations (linear posting only). Expect the site to get its own domain and more than likely switch publishing systems in the near future. Right now I understand that Wordpress would be a much better avenue. If you know of any other systems that would be more advantageous and could offer suggestions as to how to integrate those solutions, please share them with us.

As far as the IRL (in-real-life) aspect of the site goes, we are talking with local businesses to set up events, promotions and giveaways. If you own a local business, are interested in advertising, hosting an event at your venue or offering a product or service, please e-mail us: musiccitysingles@gmail.com.

In the mean time, we apologize for all of the silly solicitations on Twitter and hope you will help us shape this website into the portal you wish it to be. In the mean time, consider this Music City Singles BETA.

I'm an A-hole, You're an A-hole, Sometimes, We're All A-holes

It never fails that at some point throughout one's life, a person will come along with the sort of stellar personality that you absolutely love. Buuuut. (Damn life's "but"s) You can't muster any sort of romantic feeling for them whatsoever. Even so, you always find yourself wanting to be around this person--in some other life they were probably your sibling or something.

Then, comes the day when push comes to shove and you have to come clean and admit that you aren't leading them on, you just aren't leading them anywhere. At least not anywhere they were hoping to go.

Doesn't that make you feel like the biggest jerk alive?! (Please, feel free to share stories otherwise I might develop a complex thinking I'm the only biggest-jerk-alive)

As the rejecter in this story, you feel bad, but it's worse if you've been the rejected before, no? Nothing sucks as bad as loving your best friend only to find out they are actually only your best friend, heh. People say things like "we're best friends," but in reality, we all know that one (or both of them) are praying to every god they've ever heard of that the "best-friend" turns into "significant other." It's way jacked up.

As an end note, what does everyone think about online dating? It seems like more and more people are becoming accepting of online dating as a way to find a relationship and I've even heard a few stories with great endings.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Where did the awesome go? Give it back!

Scenario: meeting one--you just met your new best-friend! Meeting two--wtf?

As much as I love to go downtown/out and have a great time, I've firmly decided that I will never meet someone there and maintain expectations of a future relationship (not even friendship). Mostly because I've been disillusioned more than once. Not disillusioned in that cry-myself-to-sleep-because-I-lost-the-love-of-my-life disillusionment. No, I'm usually left gap-mouthed by the fact that beer makes boring people fun and liars honest and when those mofos sober up, you're left with a totally lame, dishonest schmuck with no libido.

I'm admittedly strange. I don't deny it. I never have--to anyone. Ask them. Even so, I don't think I function so far outside of normalcy that I'm the only one who has had this experience, right?

Either way, I’m pretty sure this one is not me. I’m not looking for some sort of life partner or an engagement in ninety days or babies or free stuff (well, maybe some free stuff, heh); just a partner in crime and good times. How hard is that?


I have a few theories about my conundrum (my cold pool on a hot day personality for instance), but want to hear what everyone else thinks: do you know what I’m talking about? Suggestions? At this point, I’m thinking I should go to the Planetarium (which I actually do love, lol) to pick up dudes. At least then I don’t have to worry about surprise-lameness at some later date.

[Obviously, I’m not aiming to offend either lame sober folks or those who kick it at the Planetarium]